First night sex in a couple's life is always filled with
anxiety, nervousness, hesitation and there are many questions
which creep up in the backside of your mind but with proper
guidance and information you can make your first night memorable.
For many people, the first time is quite horrible. If it
is an arranged marriage then it will be very much complex
to open up and be sexually provoked on the first night itself
but just keep in mind one thing - sex is not at all important
on the first night, get to know each other better and take
it easy. You can also begin with touching and kissing and
exploring each other but have sex only if you are ready
for it and you are comfortable. Sex under anxiety is no
good and it leads to bitterness and disappointments. Make
sure that both of you understand each other and respect
one another's feelings and desire's. However for a couple,
who know each other, first time is easier since, you know
each other's likes and dislikes, and are more comfortable
with each other.
Some women might have pain and bleeding during insertion
because the hymen breaks. Men might have premature ejaculation.
These things happen because it's the first time your body
experiences such emotions and extreme passion but with time,
all these will settle down. But you can always make your
first time really special and cherish it all your life.
Following are a few questions that bother
Will It Hurt The First Time? Will I Bleed?
This is the most common question that girls ask. And the
answer is "yes" you might bleed and it
will hurt a little when you have sexual intercourse for
the first time. But isn't it the truth that behind every
happiness there lies little pain. The bleeding usually occurs
because the girl has a hymen, which breaks the first time
she has sexual intercourse. Sometimes a girl might already
have broken her hymen as a result of playing sports, doing
strenuous exercise or horse riding. However with the right
touch and the right partner, you should be able to enjoy
your first time without pain. Take your time, do not force
yourself, use a lubricant if necessary, and guide him through.
Tell him when it feels good and when it hurts.
Am I Ready For Sex?
This is also another question, which bothers you, and you
feel that may be it is not the right time or maybe you should
wait but you are not sure. If you think that you are not
sure then you need not force yourself into doing it coz
then you will only hurt yourself more. There are many ways
in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without
having sexual intercourse. For some people giving each other
massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate and
can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse. Therefore
what is important is to be comfortable in each other company
and not to be pressurized into having sex when you don't
really want to. Once you think that you are ready then go
ahead and do it. And believe me this time it will really
be fulfilling and memorable.
How Do I Have "Good" Sex?
For this what is most important as discussed above is being
comfortable and relaxed in each other's company and wanting
to have sex without any compulsion or pressure. It's natural
to feel some worries but good communication is the key.
Being relaxed and able to share things with your partner
who is also probably feeling nervous will ease the tension.
And what follows is not a set of rules. Rules about sex
are impossible-- what should matter is that what you do
makes you feel good. And "feeling good"
should last past the sex itself. And that means have safe
sex so that you don't have to later worry about getting
pregnant or catching some horrible disease.
Will I Be A Good Lover?
Don't worry about this question at all. Being a good lover
doesn't happen automatically and immediately. You have to
give it a little time. And of course with the right partner,
patience, time, care, and practice, you will definitely
become a great lover. Your first times, for both you, will
be fumbling, embarrassing and awkward, but hopefully they'll
be the start of great times ahead for the rest of your lives.